This
book was co-authored by someone I use to know, Brent Q. Hafen. He did
his graduate studies at SIU when we lived in Carbondale, Ill. His children were a bit younger than us. He became a professor in the health field at BYU. The other
author is Kathryn J. Frandsen. It is published by Behavioral Health
Associates, Provo, Utah, 1986.
The
idea behind this book is that those who have good relationships are
more healthy. It takes several chapters quoting studies that talk about
the health benefits of those who have good relationships, such as
marriage, friends and children and grandchildren. Of course the
opposite of having good relationships is loneliness.
It says there are two types of loneliness, predisposing—characteristics
of the individual and values—and precipitating—such as loneliness that
follows an event.
“No
one is immune from loneliness. Depending on your needs, your
relationships, and your life circumstances at any given time, you may
fall victim to feelings of loneliness and abandonment.
Knowing
the issues, and the benefits of good relationships, the book presents
several strategies for improving relationships. This include
communication and touching, holding and hugging. They present an
introduction into how to communicate effectively—which includes
listening. They also introduce the topic of touch, and how touch is so
important to our human journey.
The
authors also present a good description of a family which is meeting
needs for relationships, vs a family which is showing signs of tension.
This book was written in 1986, but its message is still relevant.
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