The happenings of the Billy and Sheri Wardle family
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I created this blog for my journal. I am a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. In this blog I keep many of the things I come across as a member of the church. I also share my experiences on the ACE Train and getting to work, my experiences in Manteca where we have lived for three years, and other things I think are noticeable.
I enjoyed this as an after Christmas movie. I think the LDS Bible videos are more accurate in their depiction with Jesus being a toddler when visited by the wisemen, and fleeing to Egypt, but it was really very good.
We went to the stake center to enjoy the Christmas Devotional this year. This year it offered plenty of Tabernacle Choir music. Also featured speaker focused on giving service a this time of year. I love that type of story, and this devotional presented plenty of stories for thought. Henry B. Eyring was the featured speaker.
The stake featured the bishoprics serving hot chocolate and cookies. It was very nice. I stayed after for choir rehearsal. We are singing next week for an evening fireside, ward and stake choir.
Don't you just love Idaho spuds. Miranda sent home a box full of potatoes, and mixed in were a few Idaho Spud candy bars. These are Sheri's favorite, and you can't get them in California.
I enjoyed the real spuds. The were perfect spuds and became hash brown, baked and boiled potatoes. Someone had given them to her. Who cares how much it cost to ship them.
We had the Spanish sisters over for dinner a week ago Saturday and
had a good time. Sheri made cinnamon rolls and breakfast.
Thanksgiving we were at the Normans this year. There was a very small
group. Mark and Dianna, Heather Anna and Nicole. Then we had Tony and
that was us, eight in all. Tony had a good time. We played Skipbo. I
think that was sort of a silly game as you were watching most of the
time unless you had a turn. Tony played outside as we started to relax
in Mark and Dianna’s room with a movie. Tony I guess ran full on into
the tether pole, and there was no one there to comfort him. He had a
pretty good cry before he got in the house. He walked around to the
front and rang the doorbell. Sheri put ice on it; he had a good goose egg on his forehead. After that Tony was ready to
go home. We didn’t get to play Rook as a result, but it was a good day
all the same.
made it to the temple Friday with the high priests. It was fun I saw about ten people from the ward.
In family history work I
found a couple new families over the weekend. I was working on the
Green line (my aunt’s husband) but have gone back to working on the
Williams line (my great Uncle Leo’s wife.) I was excited because I
finally made the link to England for the Williams line. I verified the
same profession (blacksmith) and everything. They settled in Chicago in
home teaching and sang yesterday, which pretty much took the entire
day. Got the wood picked up outside which was a requirement for foster
have been checking the weather regularly. Miranda is 10-20 degrees
cooler than us, Caleb is 20 degrees cooler than Miranda and Matt is 20
degrees cooler than Caleb. However, I have noticed you have had some
pretty cool days, but relatively speaking this week is suppose to be
I miss my missionaries, especially when it comes to choir. I am the only tenor in choir. However, I persevere.
Last Saturday Tony came home from playing over the fence at the Petersens and suggested we go to the Holiday parade. The Petersens had two daughters playing in different bands. This was 4:30 and the parade started at 5. We scrambled and made our way to the high school to watch. This is at the end of the parade so we were there with plenty of time. We say Kade go past to collect his daughter from the end of the parade, but did not see the rest of the family. However Tony did run into a friend from school. We had a good time. Of course we were waiting for Santa who represented the end of the parade.
Last time we attended this, it was cold, but this year it was actually pretty nice.
Last night Sheri was in town, and was giving me a ride home. Tony was with her as well. Usually when we get away quickly we can make it home an hour before the train does.
Not last night. The 280 was all backed up. We consulted Sheri's phone, which had red lines showing traffic until after the 280 becomes the 680 and then turns north. We also finally consulted the radio, and it informed us the freeway was closed for a police action of unknown type.
I finally convinces Sheri to try and alternate route, and we got off at King, and took that to Berryessa, and then got back on the freeway, which was good going the rest of the way. However, before we got off, it took us a almost a couple hours to go the ten or so miles we had traveled. It was a mess.
Later, checking online, I learned that the road was closed for a suicidal woman who was threatening to jump from the Alum Rock overpass. She started up there at about 3:00, and the police didn't convince her to come down until almost midnight. http://www.mercurynews.com/bay-area-news/ci_27098826/san-jose-all-lanes-680-open-following-threat
I know the goal is to preserve life, and being in the traffic jam with no official announcement as to why the police took the action they did, I calculated the economic costs. I based this on a couple hour delay, rather than the nine-hour delay which this turned out to be in reality. 280 and 680 are very busy interstates, especially at rush hour. I would think conservatively there are 500 cars per minute going down the road, and then you take that much time you are talking about you can figure 180,000 cars delayed going North, and 270,000 cars going South, and then the surface road cars that were delayed because of people fleeing the freeway, you could figure 500,000 cars delayed. Most cars are single riders, but not all, so say 750,000 people in all. The average delay was probably a couple hours. That totals 1.5 million hours. Then calculate the worth of everyone's time and this woman can call herself the 10 million dollar woman, because that is a conservative measure of the price she extracted from everyone.
I know people were frustrated, but you can't put a price on a life. Just because someone is down today, does not mean they will be so tomorrow. Treatment does help.
I have written before about how the attitude of the staff on the train changed when they changed the name from Altamont Commuter Express to Altamont Corridor Express. The train is no longer customer friendly. This past month has me wondering if it is worth taking the train to be treated so poorly.
The current issue is "No belongings on the seats or in the aisles with zero tolerance." They announced this was the edict of the "manager" whoever that is. Probably some President Snow (Hunger Games) want-to-be.
A poor co-rider had two bags, including a large suitcase which was in the aisle. His other bag was under the seat. After the staff went by, enforcing zero police, he had the suitcase on his lap. Can you imagine what stupidity goes into zero tolerance. I traded spots with him as I had more floor space for his bags, but it is puzzling.
Another passenger was harassed because he put some papers on the seat while he was working on a project. "Zero tolerance" has got to go.
The train is not always full. In fact, certain legs of the trip there are plenty of seats; yet they make sure there are no bags on the seats. I use my bag to provide extra support to my back, but this is not allowed. It is a struggle to get comfortable, everyday.
I was at the point of wondering if I should drive more, and forget about the loyalty reward for purchasing a monthly pass every month. I am getting close to calling the train ride quits. When the Altamont Pass construction project is completed I will be in a better position to drive.
Suicide: The Forever Decision: For Those Thinking about Suicide, and for
Those Who Know, Love or Counsel Them; New Expanded Edition by: Paul G.
Quinnett, Crossroad Publishing, New York, 1987, 2011 printing.
I have been studying this book for some time. Mr Quinnett writes this
book with the intent of engaging those considering suicide, getting them
to slow down and take another look, and then presents some of the
things they should consider. He starts asking people to take a step
back. And then take another look at how they came to this point. One
of the aspects of suicidal thought, is that we often have some illogical
thinking, based on some erroneous ideas. Quinnett does a very good job
of looking at some of this thinking, and refuting it.
He warns about the danger of anger, and alcohol and drugs when mixed
with thoughts of suicide. He has a very good chapter on family and
suicide. We should not attempt suicide to get at our family.
He ends with a couple other ideas to consider. What if I don't succeed,
but leave myself permanently disabled or in pain or whatever. And also
what about those who are left behind. He describes the act of suicide
like a hand grenade. Many people get hurt from suicide, not just the
person who commits the suicide.
He ends with talking of the help that is available, although he says
professional help is not always needed. There are clergy, family and
others who can provide support. He makes a good point, suicide
prevention is one of the primary functions of mental health workers. He
also makes an observation that there are many causes of death, however
suicide is tragic because it is one cause of death which is
had a terrific weekend. Friday I drove from San Jose to Oakland Temple
to meet mom and Diana and Mark for sealings. They had family names and
I had a few. It was cool to be in the alter and look in the mirrors
with the chandelier reflected time after time after time. Reminded me
of looking into eternity. Some of the names I recognized like Brandlie
(Grandma Wrights maiden name) and Bromley and (Grandpa Wrights first
wife’s second husband and Atwood, on the Shaw line. It was fun. There
were lots of names from reviewing cousins in Family Tree. Anyway it was
a great evening with Five Guys at the end.
I went to a Family history seminar put on by the family history library
(they had two fairs in Manteca and Tracy.) I really enjoyed it and
found that I can do genealogy work not only cousins but also working on
the end of the line which is 1600s or 1700s but using the church’s
combination with Ancestry.com I was able to find a list of someone kids
which was cool. I attached it to my family tree.
Festival after that. Tony had a couple friends and their families;
again the Chandlers and then Sam’s family. It was fun. I did the trunk
or treat, and mom helped organize and did the fish pond game. Charity
and Anthony and Camberly Rose were Mary Poppins and penguin and chimney
sweep. I didn’t dress up. I decorated the car with spiders however.
They weren’t scary enough. Tony is going to use all the decorations for
the house, mostly dollar store stuff.
was good, some of my favorite scriptures from Isaiah 53, which is the
atonement. Check it out, it is in the Messiah. “Surely He hath born
our Grief and carried our sorrows.”
is my week. I should mention we did the foster care home study. The
house is pretty much clean, but we have a list of about 10 things to fix
before the come back. I have to get all the wood outside put in the
shed or thrown away. Tools have to be higher, etc. It will be some fun
Ths Bishop presented us a magnet for our fridge at tithing settlement. It is a statement from President Monson and our ward theme for the coming year: Love is the very essence of
the gospel, and Jesus
Christ is our Exemplar. We were taught this lesson by the primary children as they sang a Janice Kapp Perry song:
1. I'm trying to be like Jesus;
I'm following in his ways.
I'm trying to love as he did, in all that I do and say.
At times I am tempted to make a wrong choice,
But I try to listen as the still small voice whispers,
2. I'm trying to love my neighbor;
I'm learning to serve my friends.
I watch for the day of gladness when Jesus will come again.
I try to remember the lessons he taught.
Then the Holy Spirit enters into my thoughts, saying:
"Love one another as Jesus
Try to show kindness in all that you do.
Be gentle and loving in deed and in thought,
For these are the things Jesus taught."
When Jesus announced His ministry He focused
on his coming to the poor and brokenhearted; “The Spirit of the Lord is
upon me, because he hath anointed me to preach the gospel to the poor; he hath
sent me to heal the brokenhearted, to preach deliverance to the captives, and …
set at liberty them that are bruised.” As I think of the examples of Christ, I like to think on the stories of his healing the sick and the afflicted. I would like to share four of these stories. Luke 17 ten Lepers Luke 8 issue of blood who touched the hem of Jesus' garment and was healed John 8 The woman who was taken in adultery
5 Now Moses in the
commanded us, that such should be stoned: but what sayest thou?
He that is
among you, let him bfirst
cast a cstone
10 When Jesus had lifted up himself, and
saw none but the woman, he said unto her, Woman, where are those thine
accusers? hath no man condemned thee?
11 She said, No man, Lord. And Jesus said unto her,
Neither do I acondemn
thee: go, and bsin
Mark 2sick of the palsy who was lowered in his bed into the chamber where the Savior was teaching. When Jesus saw their faith, he said unto the sick
of the palsy, Son, thy sins be aforgiven thee.
6 But there were certain of the
scribes sitting there, and reasoning in their hearts,
7 Why doth this man thus speak ablasphemies? who can forgive sins but God only?
8 And immediately when Jesus
perceived in his spirit that they so reasoned within themselves, he said unto
them, Why reason ye these things in your hearts?
9 Whether is it easier to say
to the sick of the palsy, Thy sins be forgiven thee; or to say, Arise, and take
up thy bed, and walk?
that ye may know that the aSon of man hath power on earth to
forgive sins, (he saith to the sick of the palsy,)
11 I say unto thee, aArise, and take up thy bbed, and go thy way into thine house.
12 And immediately he arose,
took up the bed, and went forth before them all; insomuch that they were all
amazed, and glorified God,
Each of those healed, may have been thinking
He healed me, He healed me, I was a slave to pain/sin
and He set me free
He went below
all things; He carried our sorrows
He took upon himself our guilt, our need, our depression; our sin, our lack, our indiscretion
Visited the Americas, He asked the rhetorical question; what manner of men
ought we to be?He answered, Even as I
am. We are not called upon to pay the price of the atonement, but we are asked to follow Jesus. How Can We be Jesus’ exemplar and
share his love with others?What is our
role in bringing Jesus’ healing to others?
At the last supper, and just
before the atonement, Jesus gave final instruction to his apostles.Among other lessons he taught:
commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you,
that ye also love one another.
shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another” (John 13:34–35).
Many years ago when our children were young, we thought we would have them sing this song with us in church. Sheri spoke first, and then we were all going to sing, "AS I Have Loved You" with sign. It was going to be so cute. However, the kids were small, and they were all sound asleep by the time we were to sing. Sheri and I stood to sing with children between our feet.
In Luke 10 we read of a lawyer who
came to Jesus to tempt Him, what shall I do to inherit eternal life? Jesus responded, What readest thou? The lawyer replied, Love God with all you Love your heart mind and
strength and your neighbor as yourself. Jesus agreed with his answer.
This do and thou shalt live.
However the lawyer was looking for an argument, so asked another question, Who is my neighbor? To this Jesus responded with the parable of the Good Samaritan:
A man fell among thieves as he traveled to Jericho. They took his clothes, food and money, and left him for dead. A Priest walked by, but not wanted to get involved walked on the other side of the road. A Levite did the same, However the Good Samaritantook mercy upon him, gave him water and bound his wounds applying wine and oil. He took him to an inn on his donkey, where he left money for his keep. Jesus then asked the lawyer
36Which now of these three, thinkest thou, was neighbour
unto him that fell among the thieves? 37And he said, He that shewed mercy on him. Then said
Jesus unto him, Go, and do thou likewise.
Then said Jesus unto him, Go, and do thou
How do we do likewise?How do we play a part in the healing of the
What You Can
prior to His
betrayal and Crucifixion, Mary anointed Jesus’s head with an expensive burial
ointment, Judas Iscariot protested this extravagance and “murmured against
ye her? she hath wrought a good work. …
reminded of a story about doing what you can.
was a young man walking down a deserted beach just before dawn. In the
distance he saw a frail old man. As he approached the old man, he saw him
picking up stranded starfish and throwing them back into the sea. The
young man gazed in wonder as the old man again and again threw the small
starfish from the sand to the water. He asked him, “Why do you spend so
much energy doing what seems to be a waste of time?” The old man
explained that the stranded starfish would die if left in the morning
sun. “But there must be thousands of beaches and millions of starfish,” exclaimed
the young man, “How can your effort make any difference?” The old man
looked down at the small starfish in his hand and as he threw it to safety in
the sea said…… “It makes a difference to this one.”
from Loren Eiseley
Elder Jeffrey R. Holland talked of Mother Theresa in
this last conference.
“A journalist once questioned Mother
Teresa of Calcutta about her hopeless task of rescuing the destitute in that
city. He said that, statistically speaking, she was accomplishing absolutely
nothing. This remarkable little woman shot back that her work was about love,
not statistics. Notwithstanding the staggering number beyond her reach, she
said she could keep the commandment to love God and her neighbor by serving
those within her reach with whatever resources she had. “What we do is nothing
but a drop in the ocean,” she would say on another occasion. “But if we didn’t
do it, the ocean would be one drop less [than it is].”9
We may say,
we shouldn’t help a particular person, because he hath brought His suffering
upon himself.Elder Holland talking
about King Benjamin, reminds us we are all beggars before God,
have created their own difficulties, but don’t the
rest of us do exactly the same thing? Isn’t that why this compassionate ruler
asks, “Are we not all beggars?”11
Don’t we all cry out for help and hope and answers to prayers? Don’t we all beg
for mistakes we have made and troubles we have caused? Don’t we all implore
that grace will compensate for our weaknesses, that mercy will triumph over
justice at least in our case? Little wonder that King Benjamin says we obtain a remission of our sins by pleading to God, who
compassionately responds, but we retain a remission
of our sins by compassionately responding to the poor who plead to us.
26 And now, for the sake of these things which I have
spoken unto you—that is, for the sake of retaining a remission of your sins
from day to day, that ye may awalk
guiltless before God—I would that ye should bimpart of
your substance to the cpoor, every
man according to that which he hath, such as dfeeding the
hungry, clothing the naked, visiting the sick and administering to their
relief, both spiritually and temporally, according to their wants.
27 And see that all these things are done in wisdom and
for it is not requisite that a man should run bfaster than
he has strength.
others, we must be aware of the need of others.It is possible to hide our heads and miss opportunities to serve.
Eliza’s father, Alfred P. Doolittle
form My Fair Lady, had an interesting philosophy
The Lord above made man to help his
neighbor; but with a little bit of luck when he comes around you won’t be home.
President Monson recited this poem
in April conference:
I have wept in the night
For the shortness of sight
That to somebody’s need made me
But I never have yet
Felt a tinge of regret
For being a little too kind.5Author unknown, in Richard L. Evans,
“The Quality of Kindness,” Improvement Era, May 1960, 340.
Moroni saw our day, and talked to us as
if we were present:
I know that ye do awalk
in the pride of your hearts; and there are none save a few only who do not blift
themselves up in the pride of their hearts, unto the wearing of cvery
fine apparel, unto envying, and strifes, and malice, and persecutions, and
all manner of iniquities;
behold, ye do love amoney,
and your substance, and your fine apparel, and the adorning of your churches,
more than ye love the poor and the needy, the sick and the afflicted.
39 Why do ye adorn yourselves with that which hath no
life, and yet suffer the hungry, and the needy, and the naked, and the sick and
the afflicted to pass by you, and notice them not?
15 What mean ye that ye abeat my people to pieces, and grind the faces of the poor? saith the Lord God of hosts.
for those in need
R. Holland related the story of the Zoramites and those that were turned away
because of their poverty
Amulek reminded them they can always pray—in their fields and in their houses,
in their families and in their hearts.14
But then, to
this very group who had themselves been turned away, Amulek says, “After [you]
have [prayed], if [you] turn away the needy, and the naked, and visit not the
sick and afflicted, and impart of your substance, if [you] have [it], to those
who stand in need—I say unto you, … your prayer is vain, and availeth you
nothing, and [you] are as hypocrites who do deny the faith.”15 What a stunning reminder that rich or poor, we are to “do what we can”
when others are in need.
Ballard October 2012: In your
morning prayer each new day, ask Heavenly Father to guide you to recognize an
opportunity to serve one of His precious children. Then go throughout the day
with your heart full of faith and love, looking for someone to help.
He continues, President
Thomas S. Monson has taught that in many instances Heavenly Father answers
another person’s prayers through us—through you and me—through our kind words
and deeds, through our simple acts of service and love.
the law of the fast
Dean M. Davies of the presiding bishopric:
Caring for the poor and needy is a
fundamental gospel doctrine and an essential element in the eternal plan of
In our day, caring for the poor and
needy is one of four divinely appointed Church responsibilities that help
individuals and families qualify for exaltation.
the Lord’s plan for caring for the poor and needy is the law
of the fast. “The Lord has established the law of the fast and fast
offerings to bless His people and to provide a way for them to serve those in
Isaiah 58: after chastising those who fast incorrectly, who fast to be seen of
men, he describes the correct fast.
not this the fast that I have chosen? to loose the abands of wickedness, to undo the heavy burdens, and to let the oppressed
go bfree, and that ye break every yoke?
it not to deal thy bread to the ahungry, and that thou bring the bpoor that are cast out to thy house? when thou seest the naked, that
thou cover him; and that thou hide not thyself from cthine
describes the blessings that come from this type of fast.
shall thy alight break forth as the morning, and thine bhealth shall spring forth speedily: and thy righteousness shall go before
thee; the glory of the Lord shall be thy crearward.
shalt thou acall, and the Lord shall answer; thou shalt cry, and he shall say, Here
10 And if thou draw out thy
soul to the ahungry, and satisfy the afflicted soul; then shall thy light brise
in obscurity, and thy darkness be as the noonday:
the Lord shall aguide thee continually, and satisfy thy soul in bdrought, and cmake
fat thy bones: and thou shalt be like a watered
garden, and like a dspring of water, whose waters fail not.
Let me conclude with one last
parable of Jesus. Jesus described the final judgement, the dividing of the
goats and the sheep, the sheep on the right hand.Matthew 25
34Then shall the King say unto them on his right hand,
Come, ye blessed of my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the
foundation of the world: 35For I was an hungered, and ye gave me meat: I was
thirsty, and ye gave me drink: I was a stranger, and ye took me in: 36Naked, and ye clothed me: I was sick, and ye visited
me: I was in prison, and ye came unto me. 37Then shall the righteous answer him, saying, Lord,
when saw we thee an hungred, and fed thee? or
thirsty, and gave thee drink? 38When saw we thee a stranger, and took thee in? or naked, and clothed thee? 39Or when saw we thee sick, or in prison, and came unto
thee? 40And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I
say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto
one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it
May we be counted with those who have fed, given to
drink, clothed, visited and taken in the Lord, by doing what we can, praying
for those in need, and living the law of the fast.
We are the Wardles. I am Billy. We are the parents of 8, one in Heaven
(stillborn,) 6 birth and 1 adopted. Four are away from home, two
daughters married and two sons in the Logan area going to school. Tony,
our adopted son is 11 years younger than our youngest birth child, so
he is greatly spoiled. I have worked for the Duckwater Shoshone Tribe, Utah State Social Services, part of the time working with the Ute Tribe, Uintah Basin Counseling and Santa Clara County Mental Health for the last 21 years. Active Mormon and I follow the prophet.