Scary Mommy Says Don't Say "Can't You Just."

Scary Mommy tells the worse phrase to use with an already busy mother.  That phrase is "Can't you just."  Being a man, and always wanting to give advise, this is something I say--often.  Not only to my wife, but to other family members.  I don't think I use it outside the family at all; but it is a manipulative phrase as I try to get my way.  Normally, it is used as a phrase to maybe give ideas and enlighten someone else.  However, if someone's plate is already overloaded, it really isn't helpful.  Read the blog post and tell me what you think.